The earliest stage that couples pass through is the "DON'T WANT BABY YET" stage. Often, this is during the first months of marriage when the priorities of getting adjusted to married life, setting career goals or traveling take precedence over any desire of starting a family yet. This is a time when the couple is fairly meticulous about contraception, either with birth-control pills or condoms or even just deliberately timing to avoid the fertile periods. All these actions are taken because the couple strongly prefer not to get pregnant yet.
Next comes the "IF IT HAPPENS, IT HAPPENS" stage. By this time, husband and wife feel ready for a baby if they should be so blessed, but still are in no hurry. So unlike in the previous stage, all effective forms of birth control are cast away and the couple enter a very carefree period where they are happy if they get pregnant and happy if they don't. It is in this very time that over 80% of couples WILL get pregnant naturally within a year, many of them within six months.
Next is the "GETTING JUST A LITTLE WORRIED"
stage. As month after month passes by, there is a
rise in anxiety as pregnancy fails to arrive. There is still no drive
to do anything active, but this is a time characterized by casual
surfing of the internet for information or possibly consulting some
books. The topic eventually comes up during conversation between
husband and wife, with the two of them agreeing to just give it a
little more time. Many couples will dabble with meditation,
acupuncture, fertility good-luck-charms, nutritional supplements,
changing from briefs to boxers, lying upside-down after sex, using
ovulation kits to time things and various other actions without
necessarily asking for help from a physician. Fortunately, for many
couples, the stork will finally arrive during this time and they might
even credit their success to the various interventions they did and
share this advice with their infertile friends, when in reality, it was
just a matter of patience and time.
Finally, about 15% of American couples will reach the "DON'T WANT TO WAIT ANY MORE" stage and they will seek professional help. In future posts, we'll discuss two important questions.
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